Mother's Day is never the same after my mother passed away 12 years ago. It took me several years just to smile on Mother's Day without being able to call her and hear her voice. It was hard not having my mother around to celebrate her and share in the many memories of making her day basking her in all of her favorites, as she just loved to see her boys get together in one place. I used to think, how can God be so cruel to leave us on earth without our 1st true love, death of mom dukes just felt cruel.
Instead of looking at what the family had lost, our Matriarch, leader, counselor, confidant, comedian, chef and the list goes on and on; I began to look at what I have. I was left with the Matriarch of my home, my wife, who is also my friend, my love, my confidant, my comedian, me chef, and the list goes on and on and on. Although there's this void of not having moms around in the physical, she left me with a woman that she was very fond of and loved very much.
Losing a mother is a difficult and painful experience. Celebrating Mother's Day without her can be particularly challenging. However, it's still possible to honor her memory and find comfort in remembering her. Here are some ideas for how you can celebrate Mother's Day after your mother's passing:
Visit her resting place: Consider visiting your mother's grave or memorial site on Mother's Day. Take some flowers or other small tokens of remembrance.
Create a memory book: Gather photos, mementos, and other special items that remind you of your mother. Put them together in a memory book that you can look at whenever you feel like remembering her.
Cook her favorite meal: Cook your mother's favorite meal or dish, and share it with family members or close friends who knew and loved her.
Donate to a cause she supported: Consider making a donation to a charity or cause that your mother cared about. This can be a meaningful way to honor her memory.
Write a letter: Write a letter to your mother, expressing how much you miss her and how much she meant to you. This can be a therapeutic way to process your feelings and emotions.
Spend time with loved ones: Spend time with family members or close friends who also loved your mother. Share memories and stories about her, and find comfort in the knowledge that you're not alone in your grief.
Remember that there is no right or wrong way to celebrate Mother's Day after your mother's passing. Do what feels right for you, and take comfort in knowing that your mother's love and memory will always be with you. Love you Ma!